Thoughts

When I was younger and didn't have any children, sometimes I would make comments or notes to myself. I will NEVER do this or that and things just seemed easy. Funny how things change once the little ones get here and they have ideas of their own. My ideas mostly related to how they would act and how I would react. I have since learned that sometimes I am too tired and they have their free agency!!

Having said that, I don't have any teenaged or adult children but when I do, I will NEVER (here goes) allow the rules to be changed or modified just to accommodate their agency when it clearly goes against everything that was taught in our home. I will be respected and so will the spirit that I choose to allow in my home. If one decides to live contrary to the commandments.....they can do that in their own time under their own roof, not under my nose!!

We just went to a family gathering where I was uncomfortable having my children be. This unnamed person was clearly high/drunk....speech slurred, unsteady on his feet. He came late after a day of partying, brought his tattooed, goatie braided, gold wearing friends (okay that was a little judgmental) there was inappropriate language at times. And everyone chose to look away.

I hope that I never find myself in this situation, but if I do, I will love that child but I will NOT nag, beg and guilt them into coming to my home. I will NOT make excuses for their behavior that makes it seem alright. I will invite them to family functions but will NOT allow them to change or make the rules in my home!

There I said it...now hold me to it!

**I am seriously considering leaving the next family party with my kids if this person comes again in that state!